The life

Everybody gets moody. That's why people go on diets, spend too much money for clothes, or suck up to popular people - because they think it will make them happy! That happiness often proves to come to us! However, if you get to know people around you, you will see what makes the happiest people crazy.

Keep your thought process and think positive. If you catch yourself thinking that things aren't going to work out, then think again. Remember that most things work out better than you fear - so imagine that your fears are ungrounded and that success is real. Rather than thinking of the problems and getting desperate, imagine the best outcome and then work out what you need to do to make that happen. Follow your "inner guidance system." If the thoughts you are thinking are not giving you that 'good feeling', then think about something else that will make you feel good in that moment. Observe your thoughts and ideas consistently throughout the day (diary/journal possible). Sometimes this may not be as easy as you think if you are stuck in a "negative" train of thought and your brain chemicals are getting fired up and forming an "anxiety or anger" pathway. Anxiety, fear and anger patterns can be interrupted by focusing on doing a math problem, counting backwards, counting in odd numbers, doing a sudoku puzzle, etc. - this will dissipate the rush of chemicals that are making you feel bad. Immediately then go back to picturing scenes/remembering things/imagining, planning stuff that makes you feel 'good'.
Give a little. It is possible giving time and resources to others who need them will contribute more to your happiness and creative outlook on life than most anything else. The key to successful family relationships is sacrificing time for others. Give of your time to your spouse and give yourself up for him/her. Devote time and resources to your children and recognize they are your most valuable worldly asset. The happiest days of our lives, when we really dig down deep, is when we see the smile on the face of a child who has nothing and you have given them something of immense value to them such as reading them a book, it means you love them enough to give of your time. Serve at a rescue mission and you will learn the meaning of "I cried because I had no shoes and then I saw a man who had no legs." Give and it will be given unto you. Isn't it true the happiest people we know are typically the ones who for some foolish reason are always ready to give you the clothes off of their back? And frequently it is true that the most discontented people are the ones who are selfish, demanding, and inconsiderate of others. So form the habit of being a Big Giver and you will know one of the secrets to successful happy living. In media, common terms include: 'you are what you radiate', 'you live what you give' and 'everything comes back to you'.
Don't lie to yourself- see everything for exactly what it is. You have friends and family that love you. Learn How to be thankful. Think of all the things you have to be happy about. Relax, calm down, take things slower. No one has everything, and everyone has something of sorrow intermingled with gladness of life. The trick is to make the laughter outweigh the tears. We cannot change the past, but we can enjoy today, and look to the future. But if we are prepared to take ownership for the past and accept that everything that happened in our life, good and bad, has made us the person we are - the battle is half won.
Lighten up. Don't take yourself too seriously. Never over analyze anything. Stress can cause many mental, physical, and spiritual problems in your life. One of the major causes of stress is worrying about things that are out of your control. Learn to recognize these things and if you can truly do nothing about them, then just let them go. Take time to laugh at yourself and the situations you find yourself in. Laughter is a powerful, positive medicine and the calmer and more peaceful you can take things, the happier your life will be.
Be yourself. You can't please everybody. Much criticism is people discontented with themselves, not you. Comparing yourself to others is rarely accurate in your personal life (obviously: they are themselves - you are you!). In the first place, no one knows what other people are going through. More importantly, when you compare yourself to other people, you often see yourself on the "short end". See how this is not helpful to you or your goals. One way to get 'in touch with yourself' is through journaling, diaries or (lately) blogs. Your goal may be to open up completely to yourself and learn to be your best friend by knowing that the truth (to yourself) will set you free from fear! Practice self-acceptance - or learn to transform from mistakes. Find ways to enjoy things you are uncomfortable with. You'll respect yourself for getting through challenges, and that self-respect will make you happy.
Make a scheduled time every day for relaxation. This is a good time to go over any therapy that you’re working on. Having a "relaxation/meditation" time or a "quiet time" every day strengthens you, allows the stress and tension in your life to evaporate, and keeps you more on a positive, even keel.
Get a job you love. Some stats say 80% of people dislike their jobs! If you have a job you hate or dislike, seriously consider changing your job, or even changing careers. Having a job that makes you look forward to your day when you wake up in the morning is critical to a happy, fulfilled life. Making special time to enjoy interests, hobbies, and family, not only makes life happier, but helps us be more productive on the job.
Develop a strong relationship with your family. That includes trust. If you are in an abusive family, you must find a way to stop the abuse that may include separation. If you want a stronger relationship with your family, you're going to need to be honest with them. Tell your family about your life and don't insult them - it hurts them just as much as it hurts you to be insulted.
Choose the right companion. Get involved with activities that reflect who you are, and get to know people who like the things you do. Don't rule out the Internet as a place to find a significant other, just get to know them over the phone or through a few months of emails before agreeing to a meeting in person.
Choose your friends carefully. Nearly everyone needs someone who cares for them and treats them well. If you have friends who are treating you badly, then ditch them and find friends that do care about you. If you can't find any friends like that in your current circumstances, then look elsewhere. If you're feeling sad, there's nothing like going out with your friends to make you feel better. Surround yourself with friends who are positive, encouraging, and helpful. We all need this continuing, positive encouragement to make solid positive progress in life.
Do what you can for those less fortunate than yourself. Volunteer at a hospital or be a part of a program, which take care of patients in some way. When you leave the hospital, you will be so much happier knowing that you've done something meaningful, something someone else can appreciate. (mentioned above).
Wish the best for others and mean it. It is so easy to be jealous and petty and forget to celebrate the good fortune of your coworkers, friends and family.
Keep learning. Whether it is a new hobby or a new dance, just keep learning something that interests you. Just find a new interest and go for it!! It will give you something to keep you occupied, and a new outlook on life.
Set goals. Live up to them. When you accomplish a goal, it's a great feeling. If you put all your failures down to other people, you put yourself in their power. Take responsibility for when things go wrong in your life.
Be healthy. Give your body and mind what it most needs in order to function in an "optimal" way. "Optimal" in this case means being the healthiest you can be, and the most psychologically balanced you can be. Eat a healthy, balanced diet and ensure that you get all the vital vitamins and minerals that your body requires for its optimal biochemical functioning. Supplement your diet with the appropriate vitamins and minerals if necessary. Get plenty of exercise. This will prompt the production of the "feel good" hormones that make you feel happy (endorphins). Plus, there are all the other obvious fitness and disease fighting benefits, too numerous to mention here.
Strive for long term goals vs. short term satisfaction. It is very easy to gain short term satisfaction, a quick high, a fast relief from your current problems. But it is what it is , a "short term" satisfaction, its effects die out very soon, leaving you again with this empty feeling. Set long term goals, set a goal which takes some time, some thought, some effort to achieve. This will make you continually work towards improving yourself bit by bit and will give you the satisfaction of bringing a permanent change in your life. A permanent 'revolution' means 'a recurring now'.
Sometimes the best way to feel happy is to feel despair ('the way to it is through it') or the only way out is to laugh at the shambles of a predicament you're in.
Create something: be it some artwork (no matter how bad or good), make a scrapbook of pretty pictures, sing your heart out, dance manically until your feet and body give way or perhaps cook a delicious meal for people you love.
Learn how to feel and experience all your different senses in the best possible way: sight, sound, taste, touch, smell (relaxation & 'full minded' meditation practice... mentioned above).
Walk down the street and greet your neighbours with a smile, a nod and a greeting... or if that fails, hug them. Then hug the police afterwards, they always like that.

The love

*** Complimentary Valintine Ringtone *** If there were no wordsNo way to speakI would still hear youIf there were no tearsNo way to feel insideI'd still feel for youAnd even if the sun refused to shineEven if romance ran out of rhymeYou would still have my heart until the end of timeYou're all I need, my love, my ValentineAll of my lifeI have been waiting forAll you give to me[Valintine lyrics on http://www.metrolyrics.com]You've opened my eyesAnd showed me how to love unselfishlyI've dreamed of this a thousand times beforeBut in my dreams I couldn't love you moreI will give you my heartUntil the end of time...You're all I need, my love, my ValentineAnd even if the sun refused to shineEven if romance ran out of rhymeYou would still have my heart until the end of time'Cause all I need is you, my ValentineYou're all I need, my love, my Valentine

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The history of valentine

The History of Valentine's Day
Every February, across the country, candy, flowers, and gifts are exchanged between loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine. But who is this mysterious saint and why do we celebrate this holiday? The history of Valentine's Day -- and its patron saint -- is shrouded in mystery. But we do know that February has long been a month of romance. St. Valentine's Day, as we know it today, contains vestiges of both Christian and ancient Roman tradition. So, who was Saint Valentine and how did he become associated with this ancient rite? Today, the Catholic Church recognizes at least three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus, all of whom were martyred.
One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men -- his crop of potential soldiers. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine's actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.
Other stories suggest that Valentine may have been killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons where they were often beaten and tortured.
According to one legend, Valentine actually sent the first 'valentine' greeting himself. While in prison, it is believed that Valentine fell in love with a young girl -- who may have been his jailor's daughter -- who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter, which he signed 'From your Valentine,' an expression that is still in use today. Although the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories certainly emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic, and, most importantly, romantic figure. It's no surprise that by the Middle Ages, Valentine was one of the most popular saints in England and France.
While some believe that Valentine's Day is celebrated in the middle of February to commemorate the anniversary of Valentine's death or burial -- which probably occurred around 270 A.D -- others claim that the Christian church may have decided to celebrate Valentine's feast day in the middle of February in an effort to 'christianize' celebrations of the pagan Lupercalia festival. In ancient Rome, February was the official beginning of spring and was considered a time for purification. Houses were ritually cleansed by sweeping them out and then sprinkling salt and a type of wheat called spelt throughout their interiors. Lupercalia, which began at the ides of February, February 15, was a fertility festival dedicated to Faunus, the Roman god of agriculture, as well as to the Roman founders Romulus and Remus.
To begin the festival, members of the Luperci, an order of Roman priests, would gather at the sacred cave where the infants Romulus and Remus, the founders of Rome, were believed to have been cared for by a she-wolf or lupa. The priests would then sacrifice a goat, for fertility, and a dog, for purification.
The boys then sliced the goat's hide into strips, dipped them in the sacrificial blood and took to the streets, gently slapping both women and fields of crops with the goathide strips. Far from being fearful, Roman women welcomed being touched with the hides because it was believed the strips would make them more fertile in the coming year. Later in the day, according to legend, all the young women in the city would place their names in a big urn. The city's bachelors would then each choose a name out of the urn and become paired for the year with his chosen woman. These matches often ended in marriage. Pope Gelasius declared February 14 St. Valentine's Day around 498 A.D. The Roman 'lottery' system for romantic pairing was deemed un-Christian and outlawed. Later, during the Middle Ages, it was commonly believed in France and England that February 14 was the beginning of birds' mating season, which added to the idea that the middle of February -- Valentine's Day -- should be a day for romance. The oldest known valentine still in existence today was a poem written by Charles, Duke of Orleans to his wife while he was imprisoned in the Tower of London following his capture at the Battle of Agincourt. The greeting, which was written in 1415, is part of the manuscript collection of the British Library in London, England. Several years later, it is believed that King Henry V hired a writer named John Lydgate to compose a valentine note to Catherine of Valois.
In Great Britain, Valentine's Day began to be popularly celebrated around the seventeenth century. By the middle of the eighteenth century, it was common for friends and lovers in all social classes to exchange small tokens of affection or handwritten notes. By the end of the century, printed cards began to replace written letters due to improvements in printing technology. Ready-made cards were an easy way for people to express their emotions in a time when direct expression of one's feelings was discouraged. Cheaper postage rates also contributed to an increase in the popularity of sending Valentine's Day greetings. Americans probably began exchanging hand-made valentines in the early 1700s. In the 1840s, Esther A. Howland began to sell the first mass-produced valentines in America.
According to the Greeting Card Association, an estimated one billion valentine cards are sent each year, making Valentine's Day the second largest card-sending holiday of the year. (An estimated 2.6 billion cards are sent for Christmas.)
Approximately 85 percent of all valentines are purchased by women. In addition to the United States, Valentine's Day is celebrated in Canada, Mexico, the United Kingdom, France, and Australia.
Valentine greetings were popular as far back as the Middle Ages (written Valentine's didn't begin to appear until after 1400), and the oldest known Valentine card is on display at the British Museum. The first commercial Valentine's Day greeting cards produced in the U.S. were created in the 1840s by Esther A. Howland. Howland, known as the Mother of the Valentine, made elaborate creations with real lace, ribbons and colorful pictures

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With a good night's rest increasingly losing out to the Internet, e-mail, late-night cable and other distractions of modern life, a growing body of scientific evidence suggests that too little or erratic sleep may be taking an unappreciated toll on Americans' health.
Beyond leaving people bleary-eyed, clutching a Starbucks cup and dozing off at afternoon meetings, failing to get enough sleep or sleeping at odd hours heightens the risk for a variety of major illnesses, including cancer, heart disease, diabetes and obesity, recent studies indicate.
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"We're shifting to a 24-hour-a-day, seven-day-a-week society, and as a result we're increasingly not sleeping like we used to," said Najib T. Ayas of the University of British Columbia. "We're really only now starting to understand how that is affecting health, and it appears to be significant."
A large, new study, for example, provides the latest in a flurry of evidence suggesting that the nation's obesity epidemic is being driven, at least in part, by a corresponding decrease in the average number of hours that Americans are sleeping, possibly by disrupting hormones that regulate appetite. The analysis of a nationally representative sample of nearly 10,000 adults found that those between the ages of 32 and 49 who sleep less than seven hours a night are significantly more likely to be obese.
The study follows a series of others that have found similar associations with other illnesses, including several reports from the Harvard-run Nurses' Health Study that has linked insufficient or irregular sleep to increased risk for colon cancer, breast cancer, heart disease and diabetes. Other research groups scattered around the country have subsequently found clues that might explain the associations, indications that sleep disruption affects crucial hormones and proteins that play roles in these diseases.
"There has been an avalanche of studies in this area. It's moving very rapidly," said Emmanuel Mignot of Stanford University, who wrote an editorial accompanying the new obesity study in the October issue of the journal Sleep. "People are starting to believe that there is an important relationship between short sleep and all sorts of health problems."
Not everyone agrees, with some experts arguing that any link between sleep patterns and health problems appears weak at best and could easily be explained by other factors.

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Balancing Responsibilities: Being a Great Mentor

As a researcher in your first-ever faculty position, you have recruited the people for your new laboratory: a skilled technician, a promising postdoctoral fellow, your first graduate student. Now you are wondering, how do I balance encouraging these individuals to be creative and independent with getting the results I need for the projects outlined in my grant proposal?
At first blush, the roles of a productive scientist and a good mentor may seem to pull you in opposing directions. However, with a few tricks shared by the Burroughs Wellcome Fund’s panel of researchers from the career development meeting this past July, a young investigator can learn to effectively balance these responsibilities.
First, it’s important to keep in mind that your grant proposal is a plan, not a contract.
"You’ve laid out your research program, usually a five-year plan for the National Institutes of Health," says Margaret Hostetter, M.D., the Jean McLean Wallace Professor of Pediatrics at Yale University School of Medicine and co-chair of BWF’s Career Awards for Medical Scientists program advisory committee. "But while you may have specific aims that you need to keep in mind, it’s important to be open to the natural discovery process of science--even if it leads you down a path different from the one you originally described."
With this understanding, you can allow invention and imagination to occur at the bench, Dr. Hostetter said. Being innovative in the design of experiments and bringing in new or better techniques are ways to encourage creativity and development in your students while addressing your specific aims.
Getting the graduate students you need to “sign on” to your project will be less challenging if you can identify those who are most likely to be excited about your work, says George Langford, Ph.D., the dean of natural sciences and mathematics at the University of Massachusetts, Amherst, and a member of BWF’s Career Awards in the Biomedical Sciences program advisory committee.
“One way to really get students excited in the laboratory is to include them as part of an important project and shape the project in a way that enables them to finish it in a reasonable amount of time,” Dr. Langford said.
Martin Matzuk, the Stuart A. Wallace Professor of Pathology at the Baylor College of Medicine and co-chair of BWF’s Career Awards in the Biomedical Sciences program advisory committee, has successfully helped his two most recent graduate students finish their degree programs in under four years.
“Part of the trick is giving them two projects at the beginning--one a long-range Ph.D.-quality project that you don’t know if it’s going to work; the other more of a tool-maker, master’s degree-type project,” Dr. Matzuk said. Giving them this second project that you can “almost guarantee” they are going to figure out enables the students to learn the art of completing projects.
“You also have a responsibility to help your students graduate with publications so they are prepared to move on to positions as postdocs or other wonderful opportunities,” adds Suzanne Pfeffer, Ph.D., a professor and chair of biochemistry at Stanford University and a member of BWF’s Interfaces in Science advisory committee. Because time is an issue for them, Dr. Pfeffer said, your job may also include learning to tell them when to stop a project.
In all, no small order has landed on your plate. Which may well leave you wondering how to balance the responsibilities of mentorship and the expected levels of productivity from graduate students and postdocs
Dr. Hostetter highlights the need to provide both formal and informal mentoring. Formal mentoring includes using lab meetings to keep track of what’s going on.
“Have everybody present his or her work at every meeting, so you have a pretty good handle formally on where everyone is and you don’t have a six-week lapse before hearing from a graduate student that things aren’t going well,” she recommended.
Another approach used by Louis Muglia, M.D., Ph.D., a professor of pediatrics and director of the Division of Pediatric Endocrinology and Diabetes at Washington University, is setting up time to meet with each person individually for one hour every week. “Even if I don’t see them everyday, this way they know I will be available for them to go over any problems. I think knowing that you are there to listen to them is extremely important to their progress,” says Dr. Muglia, who is a member of BWF’s Career Awards for Medical Scientists program advisory committee.
The second approach--informal mentoring--involves infusing your own work ethic into your lab, while keeping the lines of communication open at all times. For example, as Dr. Matzuk says, if your actions help ensure that at least one other person in the lab--student, postdoc, or technician--works really hard, that inspires others in the lab to work hard, too.
“If one student comes in on weekends, it raises the expectation that others will also come in on weekends,” he said.
For young investigators who may not be excited by the promise of more responsibility and even more administrative tasks to manage, Dr. Matzuk suggests that you stay in touch with the actual techniques and experiments in your laboratory as a way to boost productivity.
“Even though I’ve been out of my postdoc for 13 years now, I’m still in the lab doing tissue culture, taking care of mice, and doing transfections,” he said. “This is one way to interact closely with students, postdocs, and technicians--and to stay in touch with the reasons why I liked science in the first place.”
When it comes to recruiting graduate students, BWF’s experts say the good news is that as a new faculty member, you have an automatic advantage--students seem to want to work with the newest professor. They see this as an opportunity to get in on the ground floor and make a significant contribution. Other tricks to effectively recruiting great students include volunteering to be on the institution’s admission’s committee, teaching first-year courses, and having undergraduate students in your lab who can rave about how much they like working there.

Balancing Responsibilities

Balancing ResponsibilityAll people in their life try to reach the success. Many things come in brainstorm to let us know our way. Therefore we try to manage many things in the same time, but we find conflicts. Many studies show the difficulty to manage many different things at same time. In addition, the impossibility to do everything or to be everywhere in same time is physically obvious. “Decide what is important, talk with others, share the load, and be flexible to help balance your life!” *Here I will discuss these four points. Couple of experienced people make different list to balance our responsibilities. In the responWhen you assign some of your work to others, you can improve your load while others can learn new things in the same time. Don’t be shy and don’t feel guilty to ask for help because one person can not do it all. So when you ask others for what you need, try to support them, accept their way in doing things, try to be positive, and let others succeed.

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Balancing responsibility and fun

Life is about balance. I could ramble on about it but I’m sure you reading ths know what i mean. I try to balance things and i do pretty well considering i have alot going on. sometimes I think I could get more doneif i just focused on responsibility more and just forgot about partying/fun but that is a dull life. I just like to have fun. I want ot have a secure life but whats life without fun. Like last night was fun. i went out with three ladies i know and we drank and danced the night away. I hit the sack about four am. It was a really good time yet i find myself thinking it goes against the principles of bodybuilding. Now its not like my body will go to shit from one night partying but i just think about. having it on my mind helps keep me balanced. Just cant stress it to much and again that goes back to balance. Well that was just on my mind. thought i would share it.

balancing responsibility and show my porgram

We have along time to do everything, that we like to do, but sometime, when we make porgram order our time, we create some trouble that impediment our porgram, in my opinion, we have enough time to do everthing if we have good porgram sometime we feel our time is dont eaough, because we dont make an organized porgram. we study at college and we have hard study. homework and some project, but that dont make us trouble of our responsibility with our family or friends.we should make and organized porgram and order our time for example, time for sleep, study, relax and sports.